After climbing Mount Kilimanjaro, Margie Warrell has learnt a thing or two about grit.
It was just after 3am that our guide came by our tent to wake us up to begin the climb up Mt Kilimanjaro. It was a relief as the sleeping bags we’d rented for our week hiking to the rooftop of Africa weren’t quite up to the sub-zero temperatures so, despite the four layers of clothing, I’d been too cold to sleep well.
At least we’d warm up hiking. Or so I thought. Within half an hour, most of us felt like our fingers were going to fall off from frostbite and one of the kids (who shall remain nameless) was crying. Within another half-hour one of my other children had thrown up the porridge he’d eaten before setting out. Already the thin air was taking its toll. To say that it wasn’t the best of starts was an understatement.
En route to base-camp.
By 6am the sun was making its way above the horizon, warming our fingers with it. Hallelujah. But by now I was starting to feel pretty nauseous myself and felt a headache settling in. Most of us did. We stopped for breaks every 10 minutes or so but as we climbed higher, ten minutes began to feel like an awfully long time.
By 10am, over six hours into our hike, the summit seemed even further away as each step became more and more gruelling. By now my nausea had reached a new level and I took my turn to vomit. The guides said I’d feel better after that. I’m not sure I did. When we’d stop for a break I found myself collapsing onto the rocks, closing my eyes and taking a nano-nap. The altitude was also taking its toll my other children. There were a few tears. “This is so hard,” my 17-year-old daughter Maddy said as we started toward the summit. “I’m so disappointed in myself. I’m finding it so hard to keep going.”
But keep going she did. We all did. One foot in front of the other, taking regular breaks, our guides reminding us to stay hydrated.
Then, about nine hours after starting out we arrived at the top. I would have cried but, truth be told, I was too exhausted. We sat and lay on the rocks then mustered up enough energy to take the obligatory photos before heading back down.
There are a lot of lessons to draw from our adventure to the rooftop of Africa. As I sit here staring out over the vast African grasslands, the one that stands out most for me is this:
The importance of ‘grit’ – simply pressing on when you feel like giving up (or in our case, every bone in your body is weary to the core!).
“Whether it’s climbing a mountain, raising kids, finishing studies, building a business, leading a team or pursuing any goal worth achieving – sometimes you just have to roll up your sleeves, dig deep and do the hard yards, even when you don’t feel like it.”
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who’ve bought into the false belief that there’s an easier way. Ever since The Secret swept the world about a decade ago, people have been conned into believing that if you think really positively about things you’ll manifest what you want with little effort on your part.
That’s not to deny the power of the mind in attracting the opportunities, relationships, health and wealth you want. Rather it’s about doing your part to bring what you want into reality.
Make the phone call. Do your homework. Expand your skill set. Extend the invitation. Join the group. Put yourself out there. Go that extra mile. Risk the rejection. Attend that event. Take that next step. Set your alarm earlier. Keep trying! Even when you don’t feel like it.
“Because if you only ever do what you feel like doing, you’ll never do all you’re capable of achieving.”
But don’t just take my word for it. Research by ‘grit’ expert Angela Duckworth has found that grit is a key predictor of success. Encouraging our kids to press on when the going is tough helps them build the grit they need to weather the storms of adulthood. Likewise, no matter how old you are, or how much you may have given up in the past, you’re never too old to grow your grit.
You do it every time you choose to keep pushing forward toward whatever it is you want when you’d rather not and especially when you can find plenty of excuses to throw in the towel. Like, you’re too old, too busy, too inexperienced, too unsure, too scared.
Building grit is hard work. If it were easy, there’d be more people living bigger lives and fewer sitting on the benches waiting for their lucky break to arrive (and complaining about why it hasn’t!). Not only that, but hard work is good for the spirit. It forges character and reveals strengths that would otherwise lay dormant.
I do not yet know how making it to the top of Kilimanjaro will shape my four teenage children. However, I am certain that in the years to come when the going is tough, they will look back on that last Friday of June 2016 and realize that they can do more than they think and when they feel they can’t go on any further, that they must merely put one more foot in front of the next. Then repeat.
“Having underestimated the challenge of climbing Kilimanjaro, I now understand why about 20% of people who set out to reach her top turn back before they do. We made it to the top because we were a team that kept pulling each other up and because each of us refused to give up.”
When I finally arrived back at Base Camp 12 hours after setting out, I sat down on a rock and cried (embarrassing my kids as mothers do!) It was part relief, part exhaustion, and part a deep sense of accomplishment for pressing forward the many times I’d felt like giving up. I knew it would be a day my family would remember forever.
Theodore Roosevelt once said that life’s greatest prize is ‘working hard at work worth doing.’ There are many worthwhile things you can do in your life. All will require hard work and pressing on when you feel like giving up. None will be done if you don’t do them.
So I invite you to do the following four things:
- Set a bold goal that stretches you as much as it inspires you.
- Break it into small steps.
- Enlist someone(s) to hold you accountable.
- Then TAKE ACTION. Daily. Even when you don’t feel like it! I promise you, six months from now, you’ll be so glad you did.
You can do more than you think! As I learnt on Kilimanjaro, it’s by testing our limits that we extend them.
Margie is an international speaker, bestselling author and women’s leadership coach. You can also check out her website here.
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