Last week, a friend called to workshop a pregnancy dilemma.

She’d been offered a promotion; one she’d been working towards for a long time, but you guessed it she just discovered she was pregnant.

Filled with anxiety as to how her employer would respond, and guilt that she was potentially letting them down, her question for me was, should she tell her employer before she accepts the promotion?

In times gone by, I’ve certainly suggested to women that they do what they need to in order to manage the potential biases of their stakeholders. And whilst it irks me no end that in 2016 we still need to be so cognisant of the potential biases and discrimination women face, the data tells us it’s a reality.

The 2016 Workplace Gender Equality Agency’s Gender Scorecard found that just 6.1% of all managers are employed on a part-time basis. There is a real stigma attached to flexibility as a genuine option for staff in senior positions. The Scorecard also revealed a 23.1% full-time total remuneration gender pay gap, with men earning on average $26,853 a year more than women.

The drivers?

The Barriers to achieving financial gender equity report revealed 3 key drivers of financial gender inequality:

1. fields of study, career choices and pay gaps;
2. the gendered nature of caring responsibilities; and
3. discrimination and structural bias

More recently, KPMG’s “She’s Price(d)less report:The Economics of the Gender Pay Gap, stated unequivocally that sex discrimination continues to be the single largest factor contributing to the gender pay gap. It further found that, disturbingly, it’s on the increase.

And of course, we know from the Australian Human Rights Commission’s Supporting Working Parents report that 1 in 2 women continue to experience pregnancy related discrimination.

As for my friend, a new employee, already pregnant, she was aware that the 12 week paid parental leave policy in place did not apply to her. She also knew that there was of course no obligation to share that she was pregnant at that time – what if she lost it?

To make her decision, we mapped out 3 factors:

1. the potential biases of her future employer and the values of the organisation; an organisation that is publicly recognised as an employer of choice;
2. the opportunity cost of communicating the pregnancy: if she told them, she could also use the conversation before she accepted the role to negotiate paid parental leave;
3. the known factors: her age and the fact that she already has a child meant the employer had probably assumed that she might have a second baby. And they still offered her the job. So overt discrimination was pretty unlikely.

The outcome?

She shared the news, she asked for paid parental leave, and they said yes to it all. Why?

1. They knew she was great talent.
2. She chose an organisation with the right values.
3. She remained true to her professional vision and shared it.
4. She actually asked for the money.

We’d love to know what you think – would you, or did you tell?

This article was first published on The Grace Papers.